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Dating Advice for your Job Search: 8 things you should NEVER do after a first date (or job interview)

Dating Advice for your Job Search: 8 things you should NEVER do after a first date (or job interview)

You gotta love that feeling after a successful job interview for a gig that you really want. Leaving the meeting knowing that there was a genuine connection, they know that what you’re offering is exactly what they need and you know that their project is exactly what you’ve been looking for. Unfortunately, you’re not the only fish in the sea, so as much as you’d like them to pick you right away, the reality is, they need to look at all their options before making their final decision.

The scenario is like that of a first date, so what better place to get your next steps than a dating professional? The dating website eHarmony published a post outlining what you should never do after a first date and it perfectly aligns with what you should never do after a job interview.

1. Go text crazy

Text, email or phone. A follow-up afterwards to thank them for their time is great, but then leave it alone and wait for your recruiter to get in touch with you. If a week or two goes by without hearing anything, it’s definitely alright to follow-up. Just like dating, ghosting is rude and no ethical recruiter will intentionally do it to you.

2. Over analyze

The past is over and you can’t control it. Rehashing every response you gave and wishing you’d said something else won’t change anything. Some interview advice does recommend that you can clarify in your follow-up email, but aside from that, stressing about it is futile. The only way to know If they liked you is by waiting for the recruiter or client’s response.

3. Add them on Facebook, follow them on Twitter, pin to their Pinterest board…

Add them to LinkedIn with a brief thank you message, and you should already be following the company’s social media pages, but it stops there. Most hiring managers and recruiters save their Facebook and Instagram accounts for personal relationships. Stocking them through those networks is slightly creepy and over-stepping a boundary.

4. Tell yourself you’ll be single [or unemployed] forever

A terrible interview is disappointing, especially if it’s one that you really wanted to work out. That said, self-doubt and negative talk about your future is not going to help you move forward. It’s important to keep a positive frame of mind so you can continue with a successful job search.

5. Act like you’re in a relationship

A great interview with a recruiter is fantastic and it is safe start building a business relationship. You will get to know each other better and the recruiter will send you job opportunities as they arise. But, the eHarmony article states that you need to know the difference between ‘dating’ and ‘in a relationship’. If we compare this to your recruitment agency relationship, it’s important to understand that just because they like you and you’re on their radar, it doesn’t guarantee they will have a job for you. That stage of the relationship might take some time to get to.

6. Cut off all contact with other matches

We always encourage IT contractors to build relationships with multiple staffing agencies. As per the previous point, no single recruiter will be able to help you 100% of the time. Even if there’s one you really like, continue to keep in contact with others. When you’re on contract, continue to meet with recruiters to ensure you’re set-up for the next gig. Polygamous relationships are not only socially acceptable in IT contracting, but strongly encouraged.

7. Tell your friends & family you’ve met The One

Recruiters need to present their clients with top candidates who they can guarantee will be available if chosen. After you complete a successful interview, refrain from jumping the gun and telling other recruiters that you’ve got a contract confirmed because that will diminish any chance of them submitting you to other roles. If that job you think you had falls through, you’ll suddenly find yourself with no leads at all.

8. Play games

Recruiters and clients have work to get done and don’t have time for your games. Be upfront in telling them about other opportunities you’re considering if they give you a job offer, be fair and open during rate negotiations, and stick to your commitments. Similarly, lying about other opportunities to try and speed up the process or adjust your rate is also an unethical game that, when discovered, will stop any future opportunities from that recruiter.

Dating Advice for your Job Search: 7 signs your first date (or job interview) is going great

Dating Advice for your Job Search: 7 signs your first date (or job interview) is going great

Job search advice has been researched and hashed out by experts around the world, and if there’s any topic more popular on the internet, it’s dating. The two have plenty of parallels so to give you a different perspective on your job search, we’ve found expert dating tips and applied them to make your career thrive.

In this post, we’re looking at a first date article from the dating website Plenty of Fish. It gives the sure-fire signs that a date is going well. These can easily be applied to your job interview. Knowing an interview is going well gives you momentum. You’re encouraged to keep putting effort into your responses, it makes you more positive, and the connection with your interviewer grows. In contrast, when you spot an interview is tanking, you know not get your hopes up and you’re driven to keep searching for your next gig as soon as you get home.

If you’re ever doubting yourself during an interview (which we all do), here’s some tangible evidence that everything’s going a-ok… based on advice from a first date:

Genuine Face Time

Eye contact, nodding and smiling are all good signs that the recruiter or hiring manager are interested in what you’re saying and engaged in conversation. Vice-versa, you want to be doing the same and let your body language display that you care about the IT contract. If the person you meet with is distracted by their phone or checking their watch, it might be time to kiss this job opportunity goodbye.

The Conversation Flows, Easily

Conversation happens naturally when there’s a real connection. You and your interviewer will have a great back-and-forth discussion about your experience and their project, plus you might even crack a few jokes. Unlike dating, lack of connection doesn’t represent a lack of future. Being liked by your recruiter, however, does give you a leg-up on your competition.

They Make You Laugh

As already mentioned, joking together is a sign of a good connection. For this point, though, let’s look at laughing from a broader perspective and consider that the interview makes you feel happy and excited about what’s going on. Similar to when you hear a good joke, if what you’re hearing in this interview gives you a positive feeling, makes you smile, and you genuinely want to hear more, then it’s safe to say you’re on the right track.

You Have Things in Common

Not necessarily with the interviewer (although it’s a nice-to-have) but as the interview moves along, you’ll know things are going well if your goals and skills align with the projects and opportunities available with the client. Perhaps you’ll even find that your unique skillset matches exactly what they need for their newest innovation.

You Get the Feeling They’re a Good Person

After meeting with the recruiter and hiring manager, and getting to know them and their company, you can confirm that you’re in the right place. You know from the conversation that both the individuals and the companies they represent (the client and/or staffing agency) are they types of people you want to do business with.

No One Pulls the “Something-Suddenly-Came-Up” Move

A bit of a harsh move for a first date, but practical and understandable in business. Time is valuable so if a hiring manager realizes early in the interview that things won’t work out, they might end it and send you on your way. Make no mistake, this is no subtle sign. The interview did not go great and it’s time to keep looking.

The Long Kiss Goodnight

We can’t speak for all recruitment agencies, but at Eagle, there will not be a kiss… regardless of how great your interview was. If the interview went great, though, you might get a long conversation at the door, a request to see them again sometime soon, and even a follow-up text the next day!

Dating Advice for Your Job Search: How to Have a Great First Date (or Job Interview)

Dating Advice for Your Job Search: How to Have a Great First Date (or Job Interview)

A few years ago, we shared a post with general dating advice and compared it to your job search. As we noted then, “Finding a recruiter, building your relationship and working to get a job through them can be a long, complicated, some-what awkward and sometimes painful experience… not too different from dating.” The advice followed the entire job search/dating process. Let’s look at a more specific stage and dive into how to make your first meeting successful, using this Readers Digest “First Date” article as a guideline. They summarized 9 secrets for a perfect first date that can all be applied to that first interview with either a recruiter or a client.

1. Reassess Your Expectations

Be sure you’re realistic going in and understand what can or cannot come out of this interview. Is the recruiter just meeting you to understand your experience, or is there a specific job already available? Are you one of the only contractors the client interviewing and the job’s a sure-thing, or is this just the start of a long competition?

2. Dress to Impress

While many workplaces and clients’ sites are leaning towards a more casual culture, dressing to impress your job interviewer never goes out of style. That’s not to say you must wear a suit and tie. Jeans and a nice shirt can look professional and appropriate, but they can also make you look like a slob. Choose a new, clean pair of jeans and a collared shirt with a neutral design and no words or logos.

3. Pick a Safe and Comfortable Environment

If there’s a chance your interview environment isn’t going to be safe, you might want to reconsider this job opportunity all together. But, there is still some job interview validity to this piece of dating advice. Often times, the first meeting with a recruiter will be over a casual coffee and they will let you choose a location. Select a venue that is comfortable, close and not loud to ensure a great conversation.

4. Be Courteous

We can take Reader’s Digest’s dating advice on this point almost word-for-word for job interviews: Manners say a lot about a person. Punctuality is essential, so if you are running late, give your [Interviewer] a call to let him [or her} know. During the [interview], keep your cellphone on silent mode and answer only urgent calls. Most importantly, say “please” and “thank you.”

5. Keep the Conversation Light

Your first interview is rarely the time to get into nitty gritty details and bargain for rate. Focus on understanding each other, giving the interviewer the best impression of who you are and what you can do. Don’t forget, a conversation goes two ways. Listen actively and ask follow-up questions to guarantee you fully understand the opportunity, the client and hiring process.

6. Split the Costs on a First Date…But Offer to Pay if You Made the Invitation

There shouldn’t be any costs to your first date except for maybe coffee, in which case sure, split it or offer to pay. You might also incur costs like parking or transportation. Unless there are extraordinary circumstances or a previous agreement, you will eat these costs. Handing your interviewer a receipt to reimburse half of your Uber is unlikely to create the ideal first impression.

7. Make Your Intentions Clear from The Start

IT contractors enjoy flexibility in where they work, when they work and for whom they work, but they also need to respect their client. When you plan to work from your home office, take a specific vacation, or juggle multiple contracts, be up-front about your intentions. If it is a major issue (which it rarely is), you can end the interview and both move-on. Otherwise, it prevents surprises and tricky conversations down the road.

8. Smile and Have a Good Time

In this section, Reader’s Digest says, “A date is supposed to be more fun than a job interview.” Ouch! Job interviews should be human and real. While we don’t recommend cracking jokes and telling stories about your college days, you can smile, laugh a little, and leave your mark as a positive person.

9. Remember, There Are Plenty of Fish In The Sea

You might realize part way through the job interview that it simply isn’t for you. Maybe it’s in the wrong part of town, your skillset doesn’t match the requirements, or you’ve had a bad experience with the client. No problem! End the interview early to avoid wasting anyone’s time and keep on moving.